A heartbroken father who battled depression after the death of his beloved girlfriend killed himself because “he couldn’t cope without her.”
The devastated family of Alan Carlile have spoken of their grief after the father-of-one was found dead in woodland close to his home in Hasland last Friday.
“Before Nat died, Alan would just light up a room,” said his sister Gina Hailes. “But when she died, it was like a light went out inside him.
“You couldn’t find two people more in love. They had this unbreakable bond – they would have never coped being apart. That’s what he couldn’t cope with.”
Alan’s long-term girlfriend, Natalie Breeze, died suddenly of an accidental overdose in 2012.
“He just started drinking heavily and was upset all the time,” added Gina. “He was completely heartbroken. He couldn’t live without her.”
A year ago Alan confided in his family that he had been suicidal, and said their support had kept him going. But two months before he died, he was turned away from the Hartingon Unit and told he wasn’t a suicide threat.
“That was a turning point for him,” said Gina. “I think they failed him. It was so awful seeing him so desperate for help, but not being able to get it.”
Since his death, tributes have flooded in on social media.
His sister, Gennive Woolston, said: “Alan’s heart never mended after the tragic death of his true love and princess Nat. The days without her were getting harder not easier and he decided that it was time to be reunited again.
“We are broken, but have comfort in the fact that it was Alan’s choice and where he needed to be, he was so very very loved and supported but his love for his princess was that strong.”
Gina, added: “I want to thank him for everything he did for us. He was such an amazing part of our lives. He was so loving. his daughter adored him and my kids adored him.
“But he always said he was here for a good time and not a long time. That was just him. He loved everyday for what he could get from it.”
A heartbreaking message from his daughter from a previous relationship, Kaci, 10, has been left at the scene of his death. It reads: “To Daddy, thinking of you always.”
He leaves behind parents John and Ann Carlile, his daughter, two sisters, two nephews and four nieces.
Full details of his funeral arrangements will be published in next week’s Derbyshire Times, and on the Facebook tribute page, RIP Alan Carlile.